There isn’t a parent out there who doesn’t think about their kids when it comes to bullying. Sometimes we fear that they will become the target of some big, mean, relentless boy (or in this era, girl) who sets their sights on our child. We have heard horrible tales of children who were bullied to the point of suicide or even to the point of killing other teens.
At Reality Check Program, we offer tips and suggestions on what to do if you think that your child is being bullied. But today, we want to talk about something else. What if your child is the one doing the bullying?
While it may not be easy for you to know the answer to this, you must put in some extra effort to know if your child is a bully so that you can take the appropriate actions to stop it. Here are some signs to help you recognize bullying:
- Your child is easily frustrated or angered. Does your child get upset over minor issues? Does he get frustrated and throw a tantrum when you tell him that he can’t have something that he wants? Is he impulsive with his decision making? A quick-tempered child display the same behavior toward his peers if he does it at home.
- You child needs to be popular. Does your daughter feel the need to be popular? You’ll know if she does by how she speaks about other popular kids at school, or if she talks about how cool it is to be part of the in-crowd. Does she talk down about some kids in her class calling them as losers? Is she exclusive to who she spends her time with? You might have a bully.
- Your child’s friends are not very nice. You should be having your child’s friends over to your house often to get an idea as to who they are; who they really are. When you listen to them play games and talk, are your child’s friends rude, bossy, or aggressive? Are they mean-spirited girls and boys? They say birds of a feather flock together, so be sure to know who your kid is flocking with.
- Your child is getting into trouble at school. If your child is getting in trouble at school consistently, you might have a problem. If he acts dominant toward other students, if she is aggressive with her peers, if acting out toward teachers is an issue, look deeper into possible bullying.
We want your kids to succeed as much as you do. There’s no one who wants you to know how to recognize bullying more. No one wants to see another act of violence happen to one of our kids, so let us help you now so you can stop it before it gets worse.