Larry Lawton on – How can we comprehend such crazy violence?

Larry Lawton tries to make sense of the Connecticut shooting

How can we comprehend such crazy violence?

The short answer is you can’t. To comprehend something you have to understand it. There is no understanding the Connecticut shooting. The real question is; how do we deal with it?

The political debate on gun control and mental illness is for politicians. I have my opinions, but this isn’t the time or place for it. I am going to concentrate on trying to help people understand and get through a tough situation.

As a young person and prisoner I experienced and saw things that I thought I would never get over, but we do. As human-beings we are all blessed with the gift of not forgetting bad things, but putting them in the proper place. That is what separates us from other animals.

First step, we have to grieve and take time to process our feelings and thoughts. That is normal and needed. How much time someone needs is subject to that person. There is no certain amount of time. Often times, a tragedy or death will bring out our own skeletons.

I tell my classes that we ALL have skeletons in our closets. I don’t care who you are, what socioeconomic background you come from, what race you are, what nationality you are, etc.  It is the people who conquer their skeletons and not use them as a crutch who prosper, help others and become better for them.

Some people lean on faith; others find other ways to cope with tragedies. Work, family, a vacation, a walk on the beach and a look into the stars, or a combination of faith and other things, it really doesn’t matter what you use, as long as you move forward everyday and inner peace comes to you. Get help, it is available.


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Have a safe and Happy Holiday season and please say a prayer for the victims and survivors of the senseless killings throughout our country this past year

Larry Lawton