Answer: Of course, it all depends on a lot of things. If your son is defending himself that is understandable. A lot of people say a child should go to an adult and fix the problem that way. I actually believe a child should learn how to handle certain situation by themselves. It is a part of growing up.
If your son is starting the fights then that changes everything. It could be a bullying issue. Kids lash out in a lot of different ways, bullying is one of them. The general answer is to find out why your son is angry, upset, or has another issue that is bothering him.
Teens with underlying issues are going through a lot inside and they let their temper get the better of them. Communicate with your teen and find out why he is upset and you will probably get to the bottom of why he is fighting so much.
We also recommend the Reality Check Program. Your son is probably making bad choices and he needs to see what will happen if he keeps making bad choices. The Reality Check Program is geared for people 11 and up. Click Here to purchase the Reality Check Program video. A good resource is “Identifying At-Risk Teens”, see how many warning signs your son has. Stay ahead of the problem and never give up.